Act without Expectation - Lao Tzu
We build expectations in our heads of what other people should do, others should give as much as we give, what our lives should be like, how other should behave … and yet it’s all fantasy. It’s not real. When reality doesn’t meet our fantasy, it causes self-inflicted stress, frustration, disappointment, anger, and irritation in our life.
Instead let’s take our expectations and throw them out of the window. Imagine all the expectations you have for yourself, your life, your spouse, your kids, your coworkers, your job, society being carried away in the wind. Letting them go and accept reality as it is, and people as they are without trying to force people into your version of how they should be or view things the way you do.
When you let go of expecting the world to react in accordance to your values and influences, you will recognize that others are acting in accordance with their values and influences. You become more open-minded and accepting that each of us is doing the best we can in that moment. Which reduces your stress, frustration, disappointment, anger, and irritation with life.
When you do something good, do it because you love doing good and expect nothing beyond that. Letting go and unlearning the pattern of expectation, is a process, and it will take time to for you to move forward in a positive way. Don’t beat yourself up if you fall into the old pattern and have expectations, be kind to yourself and take a moment, breath and let go. Each time it will get easier, and before you know it you will be living a life without expectations.